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Into The Void with John Miller

What Women Really Want

We're going to open a can of worms today. It will most likely upset a great number of people, mostly women, but it has to be done. Well, it needs to be done.

As long as I can remember women have been complaining about being able to find good men. Someone who will work hard, provide for them, be helpful around the house and fun to be with.

This doesn't sound bad at all. Wanting an equal partner in a loving relationship is admirable.

However, women as a rule will have almost nothing at all to do with this type of man when they find them.

Why is this?

I know from personal experience being a good man. I work hard. Make an adequate living. Own my own home. Am intelligent. Have a great sense of humor. Cook well. Clean my house. Do my own laundry and I'm not gay. Yet I get turned down regularly when asking women out.

Granted I'm not the pick of the litter when it comes to looks and body shape. I know I'm overweight a bit, but this can be alleviated with a diet and exercise program. Incentive, though, is needed and hasn't been forthcoming.

So, if women don't go for good men, who do they gravitate toward? The bad boys, of course.

This is because the bad boys are more exciting. There's an element of danger to them that makes them fun to be around and keeps things interesting. That hint something big may be just around the corner.

But women will lie to themselves and each other about the kind of men they want. I know, I've heard them do it.

When I was going to the University of Arkansas many moons ago, I went as an older student. I don't know how many girls came to me, as a surrogate big brother, to talk about how bad their boyfriends treated them. They didn't understand how the "love of their life" could run around on them so.

"Duh!"

Come on! Guys like this know women will crawl back to them if they treat them like dirt. Women do this for some bizarre reason. The worse they're treated the more they return, and it's wrong.

In more than 15 years as a working journalist I have long since lost count of the number of spousal abuse cases I've dealt with. Not once did the story change, only the names.

Women in many cases think they can help such men change  wrong! Can't be done. These men like being this way and would rather die than change no matter what kind of pie in the sky promises they make.

The women feel trapped in the relationship, because they aren't allowed to work outside the home. Leave anyway. There are shelters available for abused women and children where men aren't allowed.

Granted it takes guts to do this and it isn't easy.

But many women tend to gravitate toward such men, even though they know what will happen, and a good man doesn't stand a chance.

Before the lynch mob goes out and buys the rope, there are women who do look for a good man, but only after they have tired of the bad boys. When a lot of women want to settle down they will look for a decent member of the male species, and complain once they've got one because their lives lack the excitement they're used to.

Oh, well, such is life. But if I have to become an SOB to have female companionship, I'd rather be a monk. I believe real men don't hit or mistreat women.